CORE SKILLS #4 in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy: 12 CE credits

Core Skills is second training in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (“EFT”) that is required for EFT Certification. Core Skills is divided into four separate weekend trainings spread out throughout a year. The four modules (CS #1-#4), are designed to provide a more comprehensive understanding of and proficiency in applying the different stages and steps of the EFT model. CS #4 focuses on Steps 5, 6 & 7 (Pursuer Softening).

Training appropriate for Ph.D.s, Psy.D.s, LMFTs, LCSWs and LPCs.

Joe X. Cantu, MA MFT is an ICEEFT Certified EFT Trainer. Joe received a B.A. from Southern Methodist University and an M.A. in Clinical Psychology from Antioch University Los Angeles. Joe specializes in working with couples and individuals and maintains his practice in Austin, Texas. Joe is bilingual and was instrumental in bringing Emotionally Focused Therapy to Mexico, Central America, South America and Spain.

Learning Objectives


  • Utilize EFT interventions to access vulnerable emotions in session.
  • Apply RISSSC EFT communications skills when addressing clients in sessions.
  • List therapist checklist for moving clients into a granular experience of vulnerability.
  • Demonstrate ability to maintain clients in profound vulnerability.
  • Identify client’s attachment fears.
  • Specify client’s needs required to assuage attachment fears.
  • Evaluate client’s ability to share attachment fears and needs with partner.
  • Discuss any resistance by partner to client’s spoken fears and needs.
  • Create a new narrative for couple.

(Central Time)

DAY #1

9:00-10:00                      Blamer Softening

10:00-10:30                    Video Brett

10:30-10:45                    Break

10:45-11:00                    Group Discussion

11:00-12:00                    Role Play Blamer Softening through Fear of Reaching


12:00-1:00                      Lunch


1:00-1:30                        Pursuers

1:30-3:00                        Video of Sue – Blamer Softening

3:00-3:15                        Break

3:15-3:30                        View of Self/View of Other

3:30-4:30                        Role Play Blamer Softening through View of Self/View of Other


DAY #2

 9:00-9:30                        Actual Reach/Enactment

9:30-10:00                      Blamer Softening Mini-Map

10:00-10:30                    Q&A

10:30-10:45                    Break

10:45-11:45                    Role Play Blamer Softening Mini-Map Shoring up Withdrawer

11:45-12:00                    Group Discussion


12:00-1:00                      Lunch


1:00-2:00                        Video Review

2:00-2:45                        Video of George Faller Blamer Softening

2:45-3:00                        Q&A

3:00-3:15                        Break

3:15-4:15                        Role Play Blamer Softening through Actual Reach/Enactment

4:15-4:30                        Closing Discussion

12 CE Hours Available
through R. Cassidy Seminars

There is no conflict of interest or commercial support for this program.